Topic Title: Ethics Question

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I am in the process of negotiating a purchase. My Realtor recommended a lender that we are working with to work through financing. We may or may not use this lendor.
At one point, our agent called our lendor without our knowledge or consent and discussed our financing. She was able to obtain our maximum loan qualification from the lendor and, instead of working with us on negotiation, keeps suggesting we up our maximum qualification amount.
She said ethics rules prevent her from suggesting an amount so she suggested the exact amount of our max loan and added "ish" as a suffix so as not to violate her ethics.

This smells fishy to me. Is it ethical/legal for our agent and lendor to discuss our financial position?

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